Have you been doing everything right but it seems like you can't catch a break?
Are wondering why you aren't hitting your goals but you feel like you're constantly hustling?
If so, I GET IT.
The last few MONTHS I have been experiencing some major RESISTANCE in my business.
What is resistance? It's the reaction that our subconscious (our ego) makes to stepping outside of our comfort zone to keep us safe. It's our own way to protect ourselves from the unknown (ie. FEAR). We subconsciously create ROAD BLOCKS to making the necessary changes, hitting our goals, and living a life that we'll adore so that we can avoid having to feel certain emotions or having to work through them. ⇠ #lame
When resistance rears its ugly head, it can come in the form of many different shapes and sizes and is different for each of us. And here's the real ugly truth, resistance is INEVITABLE! Gasp! 😳 Resistance will show up when we are experiencing GROWTH!
Anytime we want to uplevel, make a change, have a greater impact, set a new goal, and step outside of our comfort zone then resistance chimes in to ask us..."Are you sure you want this? Do you want it bad enough? If so, prove it!"
And to be honest, as much as I hate to admit all of this I need to. I had a "coming to Jesus" moment recently when I gave myself my own REALITY CHECK. Holy toledo!
Did it hurt like hell? Yup, sure did.
Did I have an ugly cry? You bet...quite a few actually.
Did I want to give up? Unfortunately, yes but I didn't.
Why? Because it was the EASY way out! However, once I gave myself a huge slap of reality, I realized that everything I was experiencing was due to RESISTANCE. It all made sense. Like, duh, Kayla why didn't you realize this sooner? Well, honestly because I wasn't looking for it. I was in my own little world throwing myself a pity party and feeling like a loser when in reality I know I'm AWESOME but my stupid resistance was chiming in trying to see if I really have what it takes.
What did my resistance look like? Perhaps you'll be able to relate...
- constant fights with my husband (like every day for months)
- withdrawing from others
- avoiding Facebook groups (which is where all my clients come from)
- client payment issues
- a lot of maintenance issues with our rentals
- not wanting to connect with anyone
- staying home rather than going out
- avoiding finishing projects
- overanalyzing events or situations
- complaining and/or criticizing everything and everyone
- comparing myself to others
- resenting others and their business
- staying "busy" and procrastination
- blaming others or myself
- impatience with others & myself
- negative self-talk
- self doubt
- excess sleeping
- inability to eat
- lack of sleep
Quite the list, eh? And here's the thing, when resistance comes into play we can either empower or disempower it. Unfortunately for me, I was empowering it for far too long. Feeling disempowered and almost paralyzed by my own thoughts and actions did absolutely nothing for my life or business. Argh! It kept me PLAYING SMALL!
Why do I tell you this?
Because there is beauty in authenticity. The real honest to God truth can hurt but it's so powerful to share our journey. The good, bad and even the ugly parts of it.
In addition, I want you to know that I'm really no different than you. It may look like I have it together most days but in reality, I'm just working through my own "ish" the best way that I possibly can. Somedays I am legit a HOT MESS! And let's be honest, my motto is a hot mess does NOT equal success. So getting my act together is a priority!
Working through this resistance is a PRIORITY!
Rise to the challenge of bringing your dreams to life! Do not be discouraged by resistance, be nourished by it. Success is the experience of rising to the level of your true greatness. - Dr. Steve Maraboli
Please share in the comments below: Have you experienced resistance in your business? What did it look like for you?